I spoke with a friend this am who is REALLY going through it. A few years ago, she had her own business working with top professionals in her industry. She hob-knobbed with the rich and famous. She traveled to events all over the country. She stayed in top hotels and personally had interactions with former presidents, heads of state and CEO’s of big companies. One incident, changed everything. One act by her brother sent her spinning.  He hit her. He sent her into a tail spin because it brought up her past and things she hadn’t let go of from her first marriage at a young age. Her first husband was unkind. Abusive. He was not the man she wanted but he was strikingly similar to her own father. She left him with three young children to raise on her own.  Her ex had hit her too.

She became a grand mother too young. The cycle continued as one of her children got involved with someone just like her ex. Why?  I can’t for the life of me understand why men are abusive to women. Why is it that they let violence and anger control their actions? Why in heavens name would ANYONE hit a child?

My friend lost her business, lost her health, and lost her way. She lives in a barn with no means for bathing. Her new husband is sick and they don’t have health insurance. Some loan shark loaned her money for a car at TWICE the normal interest rate. She bought it last year withoiut a job and with little prospect for the short term. 

She wanted help. I felt almost hopeless. I told her that she might consider the following:

1) Have passion - find something to do that moves you. Then be laser-beamed focused on that.

2) Be good - the world is full of mediocrity. My friend, while troubled now, isn’t an average person. She is bright, beautiful, and she is very good at her profession.

3). Take action - this was the tough one. How does one know what action to take when they have lost everything? I told her, I couldn’t imagine how she was able to get out of bed and make a concerted effort to do something. She cried.  I had hit the nail on the head.

This all could have been avoiced had the cycled never started. It’s not easy to erase the past. Some can’t break the cycle and are destined to repeat it. It takes incredicle strenght to be a cycle breaker.

Her story is a vivid reminder for me that what I say, what I do and how I live will impact the futures of those I hold dear. 

Tim Richardson is an inspirational speaker who speaks about how giving increases employee morale, lowers employee turnover, increases customer loyalty and creates higher profits for Fortune 500 companies, associations, and national conventions. He is the founder of the The Worlds Biggest Blog Party an event which will connect bloggers from all over the world to raise money for charity. He is also founder and president of the Bill Walter Melanoma Research Fund and co-founder of the Jeffrey Roth Cycling Foundation. Click here for more information on professional speaker Tim Richardson.