“Chance” meeting
Just life January 4th, 2008
I love it when “chance” meetings happen. Last week, my son and I were walking on the World’s Most Famous Beach (or as I called it in high school - the World’s Most Vagrant Beach) and I “accidentally ” bumped into a wonderful family from Israel. While the mothers English wasn’t perfect, we could easily communicate. Her daughters and their friend spoke excellent English and I greatly enjoyed our brief encounter. They were on vacation and of course I played tour guide giving them several suggestions of places to go and things to see that were unknown to them. As we were talking, a dolphin surfaced in the ocean. My son built a sandcastle at the oceans edge and the sun came out from hiding to add light to the darkness.
A few days before, my son had made a comment which I hadn’t thought about until I started writing this. He told me that he had been watching me on some recent outings and he noticed that I could just start talking to anyone. He further observed that soon this person and I would be communicating by email. I hadn’t noticed he was watching. It was a reminder to me of how important my actions are and how I have little eyes (five sets of eyes) observing, mimicking, and learning from my every move, whether positive or negative. Fortunately this was one of those rare positive moments which I was able to use to make a point about personality differences and strengths. I talked to him about making connections and how in life it’s not what you know but who you know. I talked about keeping a Rolodex of contacts and how to use those contacts. I told my son I was a connector - a person who could help bring people together. (BTW, a great book on the subject is Malcolm Gladwell’s “The Tipping Point”). We have had some great conversations on this trip that I will remember forever - all because of a “chance†meeting.












This reminded me of a poem I know:
When You Thought I Wasn’t Looking
When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I saw you hang my picture on the refridgerator,
and I wanted to paint another one.
When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I saw you feed a stray cat, and I thought
it was good to be kind to animals.
When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I saw you make my favorite cake for me,
and I knew that little things are special things
When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I heard you say a prayer,
and I believed there was a God that I
could always talk to.
When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I felt you kiss me good night,
and I felt loved.
When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I saw tears come from your eyes and I learned
that sometimes things hurt,
but it’s OK to cry.
When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I saw that you cared and I wanted to be
everything that I could be.
When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I looked…and now I want to say thanks
for all the things I saw,
when you thought I wasn’t looking.
-Rita Schilke Korzan